2008 Woodie Awards
Weekly Discourse: He's Just Not That Into You
The beginning of a revolution or a Bible for desperate women?
Alan Van Grack
Issue date: 1/27/05 Section: Op/Ed
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After reading the book, He's Just Not That Into You by Gred Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, I would have to agree with the idea of the book by admitting to the fact that guys act a certain way when they are not into a girl they are dating. Girls need a way to know if a guy is not into them. This book, however, is a bad idea because in reality, and at Muhlenberg, every boy v. girl relationship is on a case by case situation.
This book, unfortunately, is seen by people as a dating bible. It should only be viewed for entertainment purposes; however, it is a good resource because it tells the worried female that they are not the only person that wonders why the boy from last night hasn't called them yet.
Muhlenberg has its own set of rules. Those who choose to play the game have quite the challenge. The game here is filled with rumors, and reputations. Many people avoid this game and just reap the benefits by meeting someone during their freshman orientation and staying with them. They don't hear the rumors, and their reputation is usually strong because they have proved to be a good person to their significant other.
If Muhlenberg had an equivalent book, a chapter might be titled, "How Do I Deal with Getting Drunk at This One Party and Hooking Up with 3 Guys and Everyone on Campus all of a Sudden Staring at Me in GQ?"
When emotions of people become involved, the game for a player is over. Hurting someone here has too many consequences, and the sadness on a woman's face will cause a reaction from the guy that will show if he really cares about her. The emotions of two people can not be solved by the narration of a former player and mostly fictional letters. Emotions and talking are real. IM and Facebook are just preludes to emotions and actions, as they provide outlets for the people who lack the confidence to communicate face to face. Those people who have the online "relationship" soon find the topics in the book such as "if he doesn't want to see you in person, he's probably not that into you," to be too common. Their fake stereotype relationship unsurprisingly needs stereotypical answers.
This book, unfortunately, is seen by people as a dating bible. It should only be viewed for entertainment purposes; however, it is a good resource because it tells the worried female that they are not the only person that wonders why the boy from last night hasn't called them yet.
Muhlenberg has its own set of rules. Those who choose to play the game have quite the challenge. The game here is filled with rumors, and reputations. Many people avoid this game and just reap the benefits by meeting someone during their freshman orientation and staying with them. They don't hear the rumors, and their reputation is usually strong because they have proved to be a good person to their significant other.
If Muhlenberg had an equivalent book, a chapter might be titled, "How Do I Deal with Getting Drunk at This One Party and Hooking Up with 3 Guys and Everyone on Campus all of a Sudden Staring at Me in GQ?"
When emotions of people become involved, the game for a player is over. Hurting someone here has too many consequences, and the sadness on a woman's face will cause a reaction from the guy that will show if he really cares about her. The emotions of two people can not be solved by the narration of a former player and mostly fictional letters. Emotions and talking are real. IM and Facebook are just preludes to emotions and actions, as they provide outlets for the people who lack the confidence to communicate face to face. Those people who have the online "relationship" soon find the topics in the book such as "if he doesn't want to see you in person, he's probably not that into you," to be too common. Their fake stereotype relationship unsurprisingly needs stereotypical answers.