2008 Woodie Awards
Find your value on Valentine's Day
Lily Hatfield
Issue date: 2/15/07 Section: Life!
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Hello readers, I hope you are all recovering from your chocolate-induced comas and the insulin-shock that follows the most sickeningly sweet holiday of the year: Valentine's Day. While some people are reveling in pink and red cards, eating conversation hearts and having sex with red-novelty condoms, I prefer to spend Valentines Day eating chocolate and watching Court TV.
Would I be singing a different tune if I had someone even remotely special in my life? Perhaps, but right now I'm flying solo and I will sing "Love Stinks" if I so feel the desire.
For those of you with special people in your life, good for you; I am as happy as a cynical second semester senior can be for you and your love bunny.
Why should I be happy on Valentine's Day? It's just another day of the year, except everyone eats candy and wears red. I get it rubbed in my face that I don't have a boyfriend. It makes you feel like you are supposed to be with someone, and if you are not, you are a failure and no one loves you.
Screw that. I don't need some Hallmark holiday telling me that I am alone. Last year, I wrote about appreciating the people in your life, and the same goes for this year. I mean, honestly, I would rather be single on Valentine's Day then dating some mediocre boyfriend, pretending that I'm happy and satisfied. I am not saying that this is the case for everyone in a relationship right now; I'm just glad I'm not in that situation.
Here is where the column starts to have a real point: You can't really love someone until you love yourself. You can't truly express and feel love towards another person unless you can feel that love for yourself. The love is then reflected onto the other person.
Loving yourself means putting aside all of the outside opinions that bombard you on a daily basis. All that really matters is how you feel about your luscious self.
If you think love from a man or a woman will replace the love that you are missing for yourself, you are mistaken. This is how unhealthy relationships begin, when one partner is using the other for something they are missing within themselves.
Would I be singing a different tune if I had someone even remotely special in my life? Perhaps, but right now I'm flying solo and I will sing "Love Stinks" if I so feel the desire.
For those of you with special people in your life, good for you; I am as happy as a cynical second semester senior can be for you and your love bunny.
Why should I be happy on Valentine's Day? It's just another day of the year, except everyone eats candy and wears red. I get it rubbed in my face that I don't have a boyfriend. It makes you feel like you are supposed to be with someone, and if you are not, you are a failure and no one loves you.
Screw that. I don't need some Hallmark holiday telling me that I am alone. Last year, I wrote about appreciating the people in your life, and the same goes for this year. I mean, honestly, I would rather be single on Valentine's Day then dating some mediocre boyfriend, pretending that I'm happy and satisfied. I am not saying that this is the case for everyone in a relationship right now; I'm just glad I'm not in that situation.
Here is where the column starts to have a real point: You can't really love someone until you love yourself. You can't truly express and feel love towards another person unless you can feel that love for yourself. The love is then reflected onto the other person.
Loving yourself means putting aside all of the outside opinions that bombard you on a daily basis. All that really matters is how you feel about your luscious self.
If you think love from a man or a woman will replace the love that you are missing for yourself, you are mistaken. This is how unhealthy relationships begin, when one partner is using the other for something they are missing within themselves.